Being "Hard" - being "Judgmental"

So, this post is about a lot of different things that I've come across today...

Lets start with the first one... people try to be hard and ghetto... The whole music and movie industry brainwashing us, making us want to be one thing or the other... where exactly does that lead us?

I saw this video today showing a good example of it... this 13 year old boy gets sent to jail to meet some real criminals, and ends up crying and begging etc... This video has shown a lot of controversy, but personally, I believe that it is definitely a good lesson for those youngstas trying to be or act hard...

Growing up in a not so great or posh area, I know how it is to be friends with the bad guys, and you think it's cool to be friends with them, you want them to like you or whatever... well you shouldn't! I think it is important to be cool with them, but not to that extent where you join the gang or anything, especially not at that age!

I absolutely loved the inmates harsh but true comments, showing his wounds and explaining that it all happened because he was hanging around the wrong people, thinking they were his friends, but then he is the one with the wounds and in jail - but at least alive I must add!


You see a lot of statistics about how young men/women end up dead...the lucky ones get out of it, the less lucky ones in jail, and the really unlucky ones dead...


This actually brings me to my second point - being judgmental!


So you know how people don't hire you because you were in jail or because you have a criminal record or whatever...or how people look at you, especially here in Europe/Germany, and make fun of the way you talk because you're from the ghetto, though they act all hard and listen to 2Pac or Biggie, but judge you because you were raised in the ghetto!? Even if you are educated, this etiquette is going to follow you around, people are going to look at you differently, or make comments like "Yes but you're different". No you're not! you just know how to use what language!! You know how to behave in both situation, your vocabulary and language is so much more diverse than theirs ever would!

You know how to handle certain situations with a lot more patience, knowledge AND balls!

Growing up in the ghetto doesn't make you stupid...maybe you don't have that Harvard education but hell, you know how to provide, respect and help people! Which I believe is a lot more important!

I have now seen this other video of a 23 year old Berliner lady being disgustingly rude and disrespectful to other passengers...what I thought was quite interesting, the first passenger who stands up and tells her to stay in her lane is, based on his language, someone who either is from or know a lot of people from less fortunate places in Berlin, the fact that he stands up and says something is another indication that this guy not only has certain values and has had a pretty good education... most likely from a so called "third world country" or "Islamic country" or something similar... I dont know him, so I cant really tell..

now the second man who is also the guy filming stands up, and not only tells her to stay quite, but he says something really interesting. He just got out of jail a couple of days ago, AND YET, being the "bad boy put aside by society" etc etc, you can tell that he has more respect and more courage, than everybody else, including the guy she spit on! He tells her to apologize, and gives her 23 years of education in a couple minutes...












Now this guy is probably someone coming from a hard and difficult place, who doesn't talk Harvard, but at the same time, shows how smart, respectful and well educated he is! For those who speak German, you will notice how elegantly his chose his words, and how while all people make fun of the "ghetto" or "religious" or whatever kind of connotations, he has a point! Now people listen to him and even clap! If he would be talking to his friends, I am not sure how the response would be, even the guy whom he defended might have thing of him as a "ghetto baba"...

Long story short: Stop judging people because of where they're from or how they talk! it does not make the stupid or less intelligent or respectful than any other human alive!!

That's it from me...some stuff I had to let go of... it just was really bothering me! Stop making fun of other people! end of Story..! It's all about helping and being there for other people, not thinking you're better than this or that person!

Children of the World

I thought I'd use my first blog post to tell you guys a bit about me, where I'm from, what I do, and why I even decided to start this blog. So here it comes :


I like to call myself a child of the world, coming from everywhere, travelling throughout the whole world, and facing a few struggles I am sure we all go through.

I have been told so many times to just write a blog and tell people about my thoughts and my complexity...and this is the exact reason why I finally decided to start this blog. I believe that I have a pretty particular point of view, and I dont see myself in one specific group of people...So I started asking myself why? I have friends that are so different one from another, but...why is that so ?


Here is what I found out... as I lived 10 Years of my life in Africa, spending at least 1 or 2 month each year in Arabic countries. I heard that in the first few years of your life define how you will become later. I'm talking behaviour, intelligence and even emotional health... Not sure how right this is, but coming from a North-African mother and a mixed raced daddy, me and my family were always very multi-cultural, which has become nowadays something, that I am very happy about. It made me become like a chameleon...No matter the country, the people I am around, the atmosphere, I can integrate myself quite easily.












When I was a child living in Africa, most of my friends called me white, which...well...pretty much sucked as I didn't see myself as a "white girl"... At the end of the day, I was born there as much as they were...spoke the same languages than the other kids and even went to the same school..(I guess now I quite understand how a lot of mixed in this world feel like).


When I moved to Germany, it was the complete opposite, I wasn't white anymore... guess what? I was black..! Ha..! The best part is yet to come... I moved to France when I turned 20...ended up being seen as an Arab Lady..!


What Irony... I mean, this totally could confuse me, but...to be honest... I didn't bother at all as I learned to embrace all of my origins... I am white, black, and Arab (I guess that would count as yellow if we follow the color patterns ;D ) And I absolutely love it..! I can be whatever I want to be, because this is who I am... Everything... When people ask me where I'm from... I can't really be bothered to explain... I only say: I am a child of the world, I am from everywhere.


In my opinion, this is the right way to be... having so many different friends, in and from different parts of the world, living all over the world, I have figured out that every ethnic affiliation has their opinions about other ethnic groups... for example, we all know about the Neo-Nazis in Germany, we know that...well...almost the whole world feels a certain way towards Arabs (this damn Media... Putting them all in the same bowl and calling them terrorists), Africans/Afro-Americans, and Caribbean hold a certain grudge towards Europeans/white people... well... I think you get my point...












Funnily enough, the way the world changed made everything accessible to all of us...and I ended up having a lot of nomad friends as well... they weren't born as nomad...not like me...I mean me moved to 3 different cities by the time I turned 6, but they ended up travelling and explore the world as well...


Back in 2011, I travelled to Tanzania for a few months, and went to this island in Tanzania called Zanzibar, some of you might know this Island...So...I ran into a friend of mine I studied with on an evening on my way to the food market... which I thought was totally random, but again, we studied the same thing we the chances we were in the same place at the same time weren't that small... Now guess what, I walk down the street back to my hotel on my last day in Zanzibar, and hear someone calling my name...first I didn't even turn around...I mean, who would call me...then I heard it again and I turned around...A friend I hadn't seen for over 5 years I knew from back in Berlin suddenly standing there in front of me?! What are the odds ?!




I bet you guys also have crazy stories to share... even though I believe this technology and everything is just moving way to fast, especially being an 80s kid, there are some crazy positive sides to it... you get to go around the world, meet random people, find friends in so many different countries from different cultures and you get to actually know a little about those cultured and you must agree, some of them are just fascinating, and some are really similar regardless the huuuuuge distance in between them...but I will get to that on a different Post with real life examples...

So far that's all I have to share... I'm actually too tired to focus so it's Bedtime for me...


Cheers champs..!